Yours truly

Keep It Real

                        

It is the year 2010, last year Obama was elected; He set the precedent for change now what?.......

Now I'm no relationship connoisseur, but I'm going to speak about what I've witnessed and experienced. One question: Is it me or are men and women two extremely different species? Let me make myself clear, I dont mean that men and women originated from animals, I do not follow Darwin's theory of evolution, I'm more of a creationism believer. Qualified experts have researched the differences between men and women. Of course there are obvious scientific contrasts, and it doesn't take much to realize this, but its been stated time and time again that men and women do not develop at the same rate. Males and females have different outlooks on numerous things.

Different cultures, religions, and family up bringing teach distinguishable lessons. However certain teachings coexist with one another. History tells us that during the early stages of life, boys are taught to be bread winners, aggressors, and  protectors( Steve Harvey's "Act like a lady think like a man" touches upon this in great detail); while girls are taught to be nurturing, caring, and resourceful. As a result girls turn into sensitive and intelligent women while boys turn into rough and semi intelligent men. I find it interesting that boys are taught that expressing and revealing their feelings will some how decrease their masculinity.

A friend of mine is the inspiration behind this post. She suggested I do a note on "why is it that guys are really shy and sensitive these days". She then went on to say that "dudes are insecure these days and dont know what to do with their feelings without sounding like a bitch." Well Natalie I can't really blame them. I feel as though its all in their up bringing and values they were taught to have as youngsters. Musiq Soulchild said it best:

 ["I was told the true definition of a man was to never cry, and work til you're tired, got to provide, always be the rock for my fam and protect them by all means."]

Nowadays it seems as though men feel inadequate if they express how they feel or approach a female respectively. The media isn't helping either. Unfortunately we are living in a time that doesn't positively portray women. Ironically soon after Natalie suggested her idea via text, I stumbled across a survey in Essence magazine. 30% of men say "I love you" in hopes of scoring some nookie with the ladies. Now isn't that a shame? That 30% of the surveyed men do not have enough game to score some nookie without having to lie?

Hold onto that thought, I'll have to touch upon that in a different post.