Frankly speaking.

Let's get blunt for one minute.

I guess we can go back to beating around the bush after the sixty seconds is over. 

Sooooo a few coworkers and I were having a discussion earlier today, during our free time. The conversation was centered around the differences of opinion in what constitutes as cheating. Now the ratio of male to female in this conversation was approximately 3:7 respectively, but I for one can say that every one's opinion was heard and respected. There were a couple of strict and to the "T" definitions of what cheating, lol  (I mean like zero flexibility). As somebody who considers herself a feminist I bet many of you believe that I was the one who said everything was cheating. Well no lol, for once there was somebody that felt way stronger about cheating than I do.

I am not the most experienced person in the book, shiet I'm only 18 but at the same time, I do have a strong set of morals and values that I will not compromise for anybody and anything. And as much as I want to  agree with one of my friends who insisted that "If he loves me, he should not like anybody else", that is NOT my prerogative. She and I have a similar set of values and I used to have that mind set prior to witnessing, experiencing and reading. I use to believe that a guy who says he loves me should NEVER have eyes for anybody else.
Perhaps that was an insecurity within me, but maybe not? Who knows?

While it may be true that if a guy loves you, he should not be "peeping" or having feelings for other women, how realistic is that? Men are beings who are not as emotional or even as mature as women. Studies have shown that women mature quicker than their male counterparts. I may be 18, but I'm confident that I am more mature than a couple of 21 year old and perhaps even 25 year old men. But that doesn't say that I'm as mature as my 18 year old female counterparts. By no means are two people ever the exact same. Thus, it is difficult to ascertain what each person defines cheating as. Which is why I believe that it is important to establish what each person in the courting process defines as cheating.
If you as a women or even you as a man do not set those guide lines, there is ample room for "fuckery" and "cheating".

As a young women who demands respect with my speech as well as my behavior, I believe that I should be the only female that you give your "all" to. But how feasible is that? Hmm I don't think it is in this day and age. lol I still believe that chivalry is extremely ill and on its death bed.

As Sally pointed out, some women do feel as though they should be the ONE AND ONLY. Meaning that you should not have eyes for other women. Do not flirt with other women, do not entertain other women, do not spend time with other women that I do not know, do not, do not, do not. lol And that coincides with what Ay said as well. She said something along the lines of "everything is cheating". Lol huh? What I believe she meant by that is, if you cannot do it in front of your "significant other" than it's cheating. And I agree whole heartedly. But at the same time, it is important to understand the way a guy goes about things, prior to being in a relationship.

While I will NEVER completely comprehend why men behave a certain way or why men make decisions without having a long and healthy thought process, I do understand why they may have eyes for somebody else.According to big brother Griff, "no individual will have everything that you want." AND I AGREE. As much as I boast about "my type", this "type" is non existent. But I do have the right to aspire to find such "type". You will never find everything you want or need in a single individual. But at the same time, if you are in love and in a relationship, I believe that it is important to set aside your "type" and all your desires and commit and be honest with your significant other.

Nobody is perfect, but there is someone out there who is perfect for you. Nothing in life lasts forever either, so if you feel as though you can find somebody out there that you can love that has more of the qualities or characteristics that you desire than so be it. Be man or women enough to break it to your girlfriend, boyfriend or spouse and say.."I love you but we are wasting our time, because I'm just thinking about all the things that I COULD have in somebody else." That's a "it's not you it's me, scenario". lol That is when that quote can really come in handy. DO not string the person you love around just because you feel obligated to stay. Love does not mean that you must stay and be monogamous, at least in my opinion. If you love somebody, let him/her go. Love that person enough to move on and explore the conceptions and "type" you have in your mind.

And if you feel as though you are done with testing the waters, and exploring your options, so be it. However, It will be up to the person you love to decide whether or not you are worthy of his/her time again. Everybody deserves at least a second chance :)

xoxo!