Elaborating for Dummies

Early this morning,  I posted a slightly "controversial" status on  my facebook. I use the word controversial loosely, for lack of a better word. To those of you who know me well, you are aware that I speak my mind. But sometimes the things that I say portray a person who does not have a filter. However, be aware that I do have a filter that sometimes goes runs on "relaxed mode". I simply have a low tolerance for bullsh*t and ignorance. Therefore, the things that I say are a result of witnessing and experiencing various "controversial" and thought inducing scenarios. Also if you know me well or are friends with me on facebook, you are aware that I don't often post statuses just to answer the all too famous facebook question :"What's on your mind?". My statuses usually demonstrate my intelligence and great word play lol. Anyway let me stop digressing from the purpose of this post, which is to explain and maybe defend the "controversial" status.  The status reads:

"I should contact Wiley Publishing or the "For Dummies" team. It just dawned on me that some guys may need a manuel before they try to pursue me."

Besides the fact that I misspelled *manual, this was one of the moments that demonstrated that my speech may portray someone who does not have a filter. But we already cleared up that notion so don't judge me lol. I was clearly having a "sadity/conceited" moment. But we also know that I'm not completely sadity or conceited, I'm bold and confident. I'm digressing again, because sometimes I have to explain myself; people often misunderstand me.

The status was a small expression of how I really feel inside. However, after reading it more than once, I realized that I kind of made myself sound like a high maintenance b*tch. And although I can be high maintenance and a bitch, that's not completely who I am. I am so much more!!

Yes I am a plethora of multiple chracteristics.
I am not a fan of objectifying others or myself, but the status has an objectifying tone. So as you may have already inferred, I did not contact Wiley Publishing. I doubt the company would be interested in selling "Pursuing Murielle for Dummies" lol. I mean it had the potential to be a great read but I'll pass. I'm more of a future nobel laurete instead of a basic broad who gives out instructions for how to pursue her.

If a guy has to read a manual to pursue me, that sort of suggests that I can be an object of any guy's desire. Which denotes that any guy can just pick up a copy of "Pursuing Murielle for Dummies" and be able to get with me. And that is definitely NOT the case. I am one complex and multifaceted individual so I would not even be able to write one book to explain a good way to pursue me. There is no single way to pursue me because various methods have worked in the past.

What I tried to establish by writing the status was that guys must put great effort into pursuing me if they want a chance. I mean any beautiful and respectable girl deserves time and effort, but not many guys understand that. I can't speak about all men, but I can speak about the individuals who have tried to pursue my friends and I. Most of them believed that they would be able to simple "bag" and go on thier merry way. Much to thier surprise it takes more than "Hello how are you doing Beautiful? Can I take you out some time?", to be able to take us out. If I'm being polite and patient, the least one can do is come up with a better salutation lol. I mean it is 2011! President Barack Obama is in office! We got to do better!
Not many guys understand when I spit the former line to them though lol. But it simply means: If an African American man was able to overcome adversity to lead our nation, than these young men can improve their approach when trying to pursue a female.

My complexity and unpredictablity are the reasons why guys pursue me. If there is any positive to my many difficult characteristics, it is that im viewed as a challange. Many guys have complimented me on my no bullsh*t and comlicated approach. It keeps them on thier feet with no dull moments lol. I wouldn't change me for the world!

I am very fun loving, exciting and spontaneous but I am very up tight when it comes to guys. I came to that conclusion last weekend after having a conversation with two friends. I've realized that just because guys are interested in my complexity doesn't mean that I have to be complex and difficult all the time. If guys are willing to pursue me even after they find out that I'm complex, I should show them the many faces of me. Thus, I will work on that this summer. I need to relax and really "fly and let fly". It will be good for me to just relax and go with the flow!

I also think that it would be interesting for me to pursue a guy for a change. Instead of the other way around. Allowing a guy to pursue me may denote that he has the upper hand, or maybe I'm just thinking too much. But it kind of puts him at an advantage. The way that society portrays a women who puts great effort into getting a man, is negative. And for a long time I thought the same way. Like "Why is she going hard to get this guy? Let him do the work while you relax." Sometimes it's ok for a women to go after what she wants. It's not desperate, its assertive and persistent. And we all know I'm assertive and persistent when it comes to school and getting what I want. Maybe I should utilize my persistance to pursue a guy? It's only an idea, I'm not sure that I'm going to implement this plan BUT if I do, I will do my best to ensure that it will be a prosperous pursuit.