I wanted to dedicate a post to a friend of mine who recently "broke up" with her boyfriend. This isn't only for her though, its for all other ladies and gentlemen who have cut things off with their significant other.
I swore to my friend that her and her boyfriend would get married but she has lost hope due to their break up. I on the other hand am still thoroughly convinced that they will find their way back to each other. I for one am the anti-relationship enthusiast but when I recognize authentic love I am the biggest supporter. Ladies and gentlemen if there is one piece of advice I can give to you all it is to never get too comfortable. A relationship that hasn't been sealed by God is not an official relationship. And even when couples do tie the knot there is seldom any certainty. However I believe that it is safer to be wedded before you get too comfortable. The thing that young couples refuse to recognize and comprehend is that at such a young age they cannot expect their significant other understand all of their needs and desires. Men and women are not made the same way. Females develop and understand things quicker than their male counterparts. Therefore girls, it is highly unlikely that your boyfriend will recognize when there is trouble in paradise. As females, we want our boyfriend to read our minds and immediately grasp when there is something wrong. But it's not like that. It would be really amazing if it were but nothing in life is perfect. Perfection is unattainable so give your boyfriend a break. Although he may not deserve one, it's not his fault. I'm not taking any sides here but I think that ladies put too much in the relationship. A relationship is 50/50 no exceptions. One person should not be putting in more effort than the other. This goes for a relationship not for courting though lol. In another post of mine I made it clear than a guy should put more effort in the dating process. It's pretty complicated but it takes time to understand lol. Anyway ladies if you feel that you are not being appreciated than it's time that you let your boyfriend know. If he refuses to listen, than it's time to let your boyfriend go. If he doesn't realize that you are a Queen and he should be appreciative and happy to have you, than it isn't worth it. I've been in similar situations and it took me a while to realize that I wasn't bound and obligated to stay in the relationship. While some may believe that each person has a soul mate, I'm a bit skeptical. Maybe I just haven't met my match yet,who knows? Gentlemen please try to collaborate with your girls. Don't do anything that you know she wouldn't like. Call her to tell her she is beautiful and you appreciate her. The small things are the ones that count. She doesn't NEED diamonds and pearls she simply needs your love and affection. It will be a painful situation if you let the best thing you have become the best thing you had. It pains me that many of my friends let thier boyfriends alter thier moods. Maybe I'm just insensitive but I would not allow anybody to have me depressed.Life is way too short! While you are crying about him hes laughing with somebody else.I know it sounds harsh but it is the painful truth. Gentlemen have enough respectfor your ex to not move on quicker than you can say goodbye. Have compassion and understanding to realize that your girl is hurting and she misses you.DON'T be the douch bag that I mentioned in a previous post that boasts about being newly single.Not only do you appear to me immature but you will only get the attention of selfish females who have no respect for themselves, you, or your ex girlfriend. Break ups can be tough especially for the person who put more into the relationship.Which is why you should never put 70 while your significant other is putting 30. NEVER, IDC HOW MUCH YOU LOVE THAT PERSON! In the end you will simply be hurting and left with all the cuts. You don't know what you have until it's gone but try to recognize it when you already have it in the palm of your hands. As bad as this sounds ladies and gentlemen wait until you are in your early twenties to be in a committed relationship. Until then enjoy your youth and all of the perks that come with it. Relationships can be stressful and unneccessary.Don't be the person that constantly needs to be in a relationship, its rather unattractive. We only have one life to live.Live and learn. Love and laugh. Experience and understand. & BEST of all Fly and Let fly.
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